Each of us senses within a capacity larger than how we are currently living. We can imagine an experience of life that is guided by an internal compass, strong and steady.
Our tensions- physical and otherwise- show that part of us has become shut out and locked away. Our lives can feel driven by pain as we experience chronic aches and discomfort, emotional turmoil, numbness, difficulty with daily tasks of living like sleeping and breathing.
Sometimes it's like there's an invisible hand around our throat.
What are we fighting? What is the root of this tension?
When we are accustomed to ignoring our experiences, we lose touch with our ability to hear ourselves. When our inner self feels we aren't listening, it starts to give us other signals- tension, pain, insomnia, indigestion, nightmares, panic attacks. We understand that something feels off, but we aren't sure how to hear the message anymore.
We lose track of ourselves.
You did not always live out of touch with yourself and your felt experience. Early on, most of us learned to deny our experience in some way or another. Pain gets passed on from person to person. When others could not deal with their pain, their pain became the seed for ours. Within our family and community systems, we discovered that we could mask our feelings instead of being vulnerable and feeling.
We've become scared to remember. This is the amnesia of childhood that we all experience. What will happen if I start feeling my experience again? We aren't sure, so we hide.
What if all your sadness and frustration and discomfort was your inner self's only language to speak? What if you were trying to hear yourself again?
You did once. You can do it again.
The journey of coming back to an integrated state has many twists and turns, but the process itself does not need to be unnecessarily complicated. Once we regain contact with ourselves, we can discover what lies underneath our tensions and heartaches- our compass. This is the center of self-healing. We will start to know innately what changes need to be made, how to treat ourselves and where we would like to direct our lives.
It takes courage and it's possible for everyone.
Not only is it possible, it is natural for you to heal.
The ability to be aware of our pain is the doorway to wellness and healing. Pain gets compounded over time. What we think is hurting us is often not the root of the pain. One of the ways we survive our deeper wounding is by making it unknown to us. This is what we mean by "the unconscious" or "defenses" or "denial." These are the ways we keep the pain at bay. Paradoxically, these strategies do the opposite. Our attempts to protect ourselves create more discord and disconnection in our experience.
When we become aware of our pain, we have begun to untangle to roots of our tension. The heart can breathe again, having finally made contact with it's actual experience.
Deep Roots Living offers support as people learn to touch their own experience again. The process we use is simple.
Tuning into felt experience in the body and deepening awareness of internal processes in the mind, we begin to get the message about where the pain lies and what it is asking in order to integrate and move towards wholeness.
Over time, the roots of your experience may begin to emerge naturally. We do not necessarily need to rehash every difficult and painful experience. Often by becoming more sensitive to the felt experience, the necessary information for healing unfolds on its own.
These qualities have proven, time and again, to draw out healing by creating a flexible and helpful container to hold the difficulty we encounter in the process. These qualities are
What develops is Awareness, Insight, Wisdom and Self-Compassion.
Our lives are the expression of our internal worlds. Deep steadiness and contentment can arise from having our inner life and outer life in congruence.
Trying to fix life from the outside so that it feels good on the inside is backwards. Flip the process. Go inside and watch how the outside unfolds.
Your life speaks.